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Tuesday, September 20, 2011

A Letter To Myself...

Dear me,

I am writing this letter to save you from all the tough times. I know you never really wanted to move here (Jaipur). Since the last three years all your friends and family heard was how much you wanted to move back. Back "home." Back to where you were born. But various reasons kept you where you are.

Now its all about the remaining few months and then you'll be back to the place you always wanted to be in... But, I know that leaving this place is no longer easy for you now. 'moving out' was something you always wanted... But suddenly the fear of moving out of this place is haunting you. I understand that you have spent some very memorable times of your life over here, this place has started feeling like home to you. But you have to be strong.. this is life and you have to leave many things behind.

Don't you remember how many things life taught you in the last three years... You have lost some of your best friends. Even the ones you thought would never leave. You grappled for days and searched for meanings. You examined your actions a hundred million times.

I know it hurt you a lot but now I want you to know that it will happen again and again. I am waiting for the day when you will realise that you have only behaved with utmost respect and you have only been the most sincere friend.

You have done everything you could. You will realise that the ones who walk away truly do not deserve your love. You will realise that time changes every single thing. You will also realise that some amazing people will enter your life, simply because you will eventually let go the past.

I know there are several things on your mind now and it keeps bothering you. But, I want you to Wait.... be patient, and find out what YOU want of life, not what someone tells you you want, and give yourself time to find YOURSELF. Love yourself first before loving another person - if you don't love yourself, you will settle for less than what you should have, because you won't think you deserve the best.

I wish you find your true love soon... and yeah... True love doesn't make you cry. If he makes you cry, don't stay with him. Find someone who can love you unconditionally and who doesn't judge you.

One day you will have the life that you have always envisioned of and then you'll finally realise that the only thing that matters in the long run is spending time with your loved ones and telling them that you love them a lot. You will also realise that laughing a lot, exercising, eating healthy,being kind to others as well as yourself and cherishing each and every day will indeed pay off.

So just let go... This all will not matter really fifteen years from now :)

Much love,
Yourself...

40 comments:

Anonymous said...

Days Pass, Things Come and Go... People passes as the leaf's of life... the only thing which remains is YOU along with Yourself.

kaykuala said...

Madhulika,
It is a realization. But many stop there. You did one better. When it is written down we search ourselves on what to write. That itself makes us think. Once written it becomes a commitment.Great!

Hank

Pat Hatt said...

Great advice to yourself

Madhulika said...

@anonymous : Thanks

@kaykuala : Thanks a lot.. at time such letters help you overcome a bad time :)

@Pat Hatt : Thanks a lot :)

Ege said...

You say true love dont make you cry.. Hm, it's impossible not to hurt the one you love sometimes. You maybe dont want to hurt, but maybe there will be misunderstanding and there will be things happen... True love will let you be the one you are, and always get back in touch.

Brian Miller said...

i think you are very wise in this...give yourself time for sure, too many settle for the life dictated to them or wait too late when they have to settle for what they can get and never really think about what it is they really want or what it will take to get there...hope youread your letter to yourself...smiles.

Sie said...

Sis..your letter made me cry..I also feel the same..but at least for you..you can see the direction of your life..where will it lead you..you can at least plan on what will be your next step..for me I am still on a waiting process (you know my story)..

On true love..if those tears was because of him misjudging or abusing your kindness then your right he is not worth it..I am 35 and I had only a relationship twice..I am always into commitment..the reason why I have fears because I am always afraid of being hurt..I have always told this to myself "Once you love..you are opening your heart for someone to love and hurt you..BUT Trusting them not to.." ..there will always be pains even in true love sis..but it will always be on how you get over it..BUT abuse, disrespect, nahhhhh.. settle for the best sis .. because you deserve it :)..I have been into so much pain but I never have given up on having my true love :)

*sis..all of what you are going through now..it is a part of your journey..to make you strong and mature..one day I am sure..you can look back and smile..I have survived and passed that test of my life..LOve yah sis..Hold On ok :) *

Bikramjit said...

Good advice to yourself. BUt I dont know what other say that time goes by , you forget things .. well I DONT .. I remember everything so when you move ot a new place you start to love it but you dont forget what you left and so on ...


And yes be patient all good things come ot those who wait and work hard ... It will all come and as you say you are Number one always , LOVE yourself is the key...

You take care and all the best .. and keep smiling and read this letter OFTEN

Bikram's

MarieHarmony said...

Great letter to yourself, you better keep it cause this is the best advice and reminder you need every time you feel a bit down.
You said out loud what we all think inside our own lives.
Take care Madhulika and all the best! Much Love
marie

SUB said...

it will pay off indeed...
cheers to a happy life :)

SUB
http://khonjtheeternalsearch.blogspot.com/

Madhulika said...

@Ege : Thanks for your wise words.. I'll definitely keep this in mind when I find my true love :)

@Brian Miller : hehehe.. I'll definitely read this letter that I have written to myself and will always try to be this wise ;)

@Sie : Thanks for your words sis.. I know you have had a lot of bad times.. I can understand what pain you have gone through.. But I am glad you found your angel..
Be happy always...
*hugss*

@Bikramjit : yeah.. for being being the number number one in your own life is very important. Even I dont really forget things with time but yet the memories become lil less bothering with each passing day...
I have written this letter to myself because I wanted myself to read it and keep myself reminding how things should be done.. Its always easier to say than to do.. but yeah.. I'll definitely read this often and try to follow it :)

@MarieHarmony : Thanks for your world :) I'll definitely let it work as an constant reminder for myself.. I am glad you liked it :)

Madhulika said...

@SUB : Hope it does...
*cheers* :)

vaneneng said...

Oh Madhu I was awed by your words! I was also teary that I feel something amazing inside while reading your letter, I'm so proud of you that at a young age you have your way of figuring things out according to your own perception! Even if I didn't know you personally, I feel you Madhu.. And it's great that I had the chance to be here saying how I feel.:) Godbless sis! Mwah!

Nona said...

Hope this phase passes soon.

Ed Pilolla said...

i really like the advice to yourself. our higher selves can supply us with the guidance that we don't even know we need yet. you are in good hands:) you know what you want. this, in my experience, is key. you are not in charge of how it may come to you, which may challenge you to recognize the gifts as they come.
you have a compelling internal voice.

Rachit said...

creative piece of work :)

Weakest LINK

Sie said...

Passing by again sis..keep in touch ok..I'll always be here..though virtually..you will make it..because you are strong and I know there are a lot of people praying and loving you..I am one of them..we have to stay strong and convince ourselves..we can make it and always hope for the best..it is the only thing that can help us survive life..

*hhhuuggggssss*

Elliot MacLeod-Michael said...

I know that feeling all too well. I don't know how I wound up in Baton Rouge when for most of my life I lived in the tropical paradise that is South Florida.

Madhulika said...

@vaneneng : things that come from heart always touches others heart.. I am glad you could feel whatever I was feeling while writing this..
It really amazes me how this blogging world has brought some such amazing friends in my life...
Stay connected always :)
Much Love... mwwaaacchhh :)

@Nona : I wish the same :)

@Ed Pilolla : hehehe.. *blush*... thanks :)

@Rachit : Thanks dear :)

@Sie : Hmmm.. thanks a lot sis... this all means a lot to me.. at times in your life you meet some people and then wonder how come such sweet people still exists in the world... I am glad to let you know that you are one of them..
May God be with you always..
much love... *hugggsss*

@Elliot MacLeod-Michael : I am glad you could relate to this post :)
Thanks for stopping by my blog.. hope to see you around :)

IRFANUDDIN said...

thats really nice....and a silent chat with ourselves always helps to make us more strong and wise...

Nice Post Madhulika..:)

Muhammad Israr said...

hahahaha...wonderful idea...i guess i had written a letter to me but i think i never received it as i got the address wrong :)

Pesto Sauce said...

The only way to live life is to be optimistic about it. If you can ignore the pebbles on way, journey will become more enjoyable

PeeVee said...

So much introspection! Girl, you are growing wiser by the minute:)
Just make sure you remember this next time you feel like giving up for, as a person of great strength, you owe it to yourself!

Miss Sheikh Chilli said...

Wow, I will write letter to ME soon

R. Ramesh said...

well said SUB- it will pay off indeed...
cheers to a happy life :)

Life Unordinary said...

true love will come. You know what they say about having to kiss a bunch of frogs...cliched but true.

Madhulika said...

@IRFANUDDIN : yes it indeed works at times... in such a busy life, sometimes we must have a break and spend sometime with ourselves too.. :)

@Muhammad Israr : hehehe.. in that case try writing it again.. and do check the address this time ;)

@Pesto Sauce : Thanks for your wise words.. I'll definitely keep this in mind :)

@PeeVee : *blush* *blush*... Thanks :)

@Miss Sheikh Chilli : will wait for it :)

@R. Ramesh : :)

@Life Unordinary : waiting for it to come... :)

albusclosethedoor said...

So true...

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Wow. This one great post of yours. So beautifully written Keep it up.

Thanks for ur comment .

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Follow each other .

Brian Miller said...

ha fun to read some of your comments...smiles have a wonderful second half the week

Madhulika said...

@albusclosethedoor : Thanks :)

@♥●• Izdiher·•●♥ : Followed you... Thanks for stopping by :)

@Brian Miller : *smiles* :) :) you too have a great week :)

ChaCha said...

Hello, this is a very nice write up, I can feel that longing in searching and waiting for the right time. I subscribed to your pretty blog. Thanks a lot :) Be well.

Soumyadeep said...

the more we write such letters...d bettr person we can be.....

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Daanish said...

very nice write up.

Brian Miller said...

jumping online for a moment this morning...hope that you are having a lovely weekend...

Jyoti Mishra said...

its very wise of u to write it down... it feels light when u do it...
its like a big burden is shared.

Good luck wid time ahead ..
it too will pass soon

Rahul Bhatia said...

A lot of auto suggestion!! A well written one!

The PostMan said...

Love the pic and dig your writing.

Regards
The PostMan
http://postcardsinthewind.blogspot.com/

bond007 said...

hello Madhulika howzz u ,howzz ur xam going...best of luck for the same ...Anuj Kushwah

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